Before you begin to let go, think about what you want to add or change to your life, first make a list of what you can leave behind and eliminate altogether. Think about some of the rules you have given yourself, the things that you obsess over most and the unrealistic expectations that you require of yourself.
Consider some of the following areas of your life and what you can eliminate or leave behind as you work toward being your best.
- Facebook “friends” – Everyone has those lingering Facebook friends that pop up in the mini-feed. Purging the friend list will allow you to eliminate feelings that enable you to compare yourself to others.
- Negative relationships – If a relationship with someone is bringing more negativity than positivity, it may be time to set some strong boundaries with that person or eliminate interaction with them.
- Mementos from an unhealthy relationship – If you are holding on to items that remind you of a bad break up or relationship that ended negatively, get rid of the things that are holding you back from healing and moving on. This will allow you to look forward to new relationships and even make time to nurture existing ones that could make your life more fulfilling.
Junk & Clutter
- Clothes that you want to fit into someday – Rid yourself of the clothes that no longer fit your body or that make you feel self-conscious and you will eliminate the pressure and expectations associated with fitting into them.
- Subscriptions – Unsubscribe from the mass emails or e-newsletters that are no longer relevant to you. This will allow you to filter through what is truly important and make time to read what fits your interests.
- Useless paperwork – Go through stacks of mail, school work, old magazines, receipts, expired coupons, recipes that you didn’t like and to-do lists that you have completed. Throw away everything that is no longer relevant and file what you need to keep. This will allow you to know what you have and feel less overwhelmed.
- Exercise expectations – If you require yourself to work out five times a week and beat yourself up when you only go twice because of your schedule, consider removing this rule from your life. Rather, take time to appreciate the two times that you did make it.
- Memberships – If you found you have said “yes” to too many clubs, organizations, groups or teams that you are spread so thin to the point of resenting that membership, figure out what can give. When you feel relief, you will know you made the right decision to not over-commit yourself.
- Time commitments – Consider eliminating or changing the amount of time you are willing give or scheduling “you time” in your calendar. Whether it is helping a friend, completing a project or supporting a cause, figure out what is a feasible amount of time that you can give and do not over-commit.
- Guilt – If something’s eating at your conscience, figure out how you really feel about it, deal with it and move on. This may require a confession or an apology to somebody, but before you seek forgiveness from others, make sure you have fully and honestly forgiven yourself first.
- Grudges – We sometimes find ourselves holding grudges against those who are just plain mean, offensive and disrespectful. But honestly, carrying around hurt feelings will neither make you happy nor benefit you in any way. In fact, it will only continue to make you feel bad. Letting go and knowing that you can no longer be hurt by that person will take away their power to affect you.